Instead of making just one New Year’s resolution, I’m making monthly resolutions—one goal per month to upgrade my life, embrace my ambition and make the world a better place.
I love the possibilities of the New Year: Seems like everyone has the confidence to tackle long-held goals and make the changes they know will help get them their best life. (In fact, I just wrote an article for Women’s Health about how to finally achieve your goals you make and re-make every January!) But this year, I’ve felt totally overwhelmed by the idea of New Year’s resolutions. Maybe I’m overly ambitious, maybe I’m scattered, but there’s just so much I want to do—and there are only 24 hours in a day.
I’ve been talking with friends about different approaches to New Year’s resolutions. One friend identifies a single word by which she wants to live. (2018 is “ease,” she told me.) Another friend sets New Year’s intentions. I like that these approaches have lower pressure than the typical New Year’s resolution. But I needed to figure out my own path to reach my goals.
So I sat down in a comfy spot on the couch, soothing music playing and tea steeping, to do some brainstorming. I started with a big question:
What do I want in 2018?
Identifying my goals
Then I made a big, fat list in my bullet journal. I didn’t censor myself, and I didn’t limit myself. I let my ideas flow.
Turns out I have a lot of things I want to do, and there’s not one overarching theme. I want to make positive changes and reach goals in my career, finances, activism, creative play and more. So what to do?
Enter the monthly resolution: Month-long goals I can work on for just 30 or 31 days (or, in the case of February, 28!), then move on to the next project.
A monthly resolution is going to help me focus on one thing at a time (something I struggle with—I just have so many ideas that it’s hard to rein in my energy!). A monthly resolution will also help me feel accomplished, which is an enormous motivator for me. And a monthly resolution will support my ambition—so I can do all the things! (At least in theory, haha.)
My approach to monthly resolutions
When it comes to setting goals and getting things done, I do best when I have structure and deadlines. (You’re learning an awful lot about my process and preferences this post, aren’t you?!) So these are the ground rules for my monthly resolutions:
- Take goals one day at a time and one month at a time. If I goof or miss a day, no guilt and no self-bashing!
- Recap what went well (and not so well) at the end of the month. #accountability
- Outline concrete steps and specific goals at the beginning of each monthly resolution.
- Make monthly resolutions for me—not for someone else.
- Do everything with this goal in mind: A happier, more fulfilling, more generous life.
Making 2018 my year
Like many people, I could have done without much of 2017 (except all these things I’m grateful for last year). But I’m tired of having the events in the outside world dictate how I feel about an entire 12 months.
So now I’m making 2018 my year.
I’m going to hit my goals. I’m going to make my community a better place. I’m going to embrace my ambition and do all the things!
Are you with me?
Check in tomorrow when I share my monthly resolution for January!